Inner Strength – Humility and Compassion

By Jack Elias

I have had 2 incidents come to my attention in the last few days that have reminded me how important Humility is.

A colleague shared about going to another hypnotherapist for some help and the hypnotherapist tried to dictate what her problem was and only became more insistent when my friend objected.

A client who was horribly abused as a child objected vehemently when I asked if he wanted to connect with that part of his psyche still acting as if it was the child. To my surprise, he said, “No way! I hate him.”

These to incidents highlighted for me the ways in which we attack ourself or another because of the arrogance of thinking our view is the true and only view.

One of my spiritual teachers has said that Humility is Compassion towards oneself.

This made sense to me when I realized that it is a kindness to myself to reject fearful thoughts whose essential message is that I’m not good enough, or strong enough, or smart enough, or lacking in some other way.

Seeing this, it became clear that Humility is the source of true strength. True strength enables us to reject fear and the temptation to act on fear which usually means to commit some form  of violence against ourself or someone else.

Fear always has an arrogant aspect to it, whether active against others, or passive against oneself. It is a refusal to connect with or to share with — a complete lack of generosity.

I find that thinking about a problem as being just a problem of fear makes it easy for me to indulge it. If I look to see how the presence of fear indicates that I am being arrogant and mean-spirited, it is much harder for me to allow the fearful state to keep my interest. For me, the thought of being arrogant or mean burns and inspires me to find a greater clarity and openness of heart.

It helps to open to Humility as the antidote to the arrogance if I understand that humility is not meekness but kindness to myself. It is a kindness to open to my true relationship with life rather than persist in my fearful fantasy.

Try opening to Humility by simply stopping for 30 seconds, and
stretching your arms out and up towards the sky and breathing in fully and gently. Imagine how you would feel at the end of the day if you took this break to open and breathe every 30 minutes, or every hour, or every time you noticed yourself getting tense. Go beyond imagining — do it and discover the power of Humility. Can you be this generous with yourself? Good luck!

Jack Elias, a Clinical Hypnotherapist in private practice, is founder and director of The Institute for Therapeutic Learning, a licensed Vocational School in Seattle that trains and certifies Transpersonal Clinical Hypnotherapists. Jack presents a unique synthesis of Eastern and Western perspectives on the nature of consciousness and communication, teaching simple yet powerful techniques for achieving one’s highest personal and professional goals. Since 1967, Jack has studied Eastern meditation, philosophy and psychology with masters such as Shunryo Suzuki Roshi and Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche. Before beginning his teaching and counseling career, Jack worked for 20 years in sales, marketing and financial planning. Jack offers dynamic experiential workshops and seminars, and his Finding True Magic courses are eligible for credit at various universities.

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  • Hi Irene & Jack .. perhaps it’s the way it’s put across .. and if it was explained more gently and with someone with time coming at a different angle – I’m talking from my own experience in ‘a real life’ scenario – that we might see that what we’re being asked to do is the right approach.

    I like the sentence .. Humility is compassion towards oneself: to love oneself and as you say .. not be afraid.

    Thank you – Hilary: Be Positive Be Happy

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