Self-Acceptance – 7 Ways to Improve
Self-acceptance is the key to self-improvement. Unless you can accept yourself you remain stuck, unable to do what is necessary to create the change that you want. Self-acceptance can be difficult for many people to achieve. The following are some suggestions that can help you feel more accepting of yourself:
1. Begin and end each day with gratitude.
Spend a few minutes thinking about the things that you are grateful for. Remember to include the things about yourself. You may be grateful for your sense of humor, your skill, talents and abilities. Allow that feeling of gratitude set the tone for your day.
2. Breathe in the good; breathe out the bad.
Breathe in confidence, love and acceptance; breathe out judgment, criticism and complaints. Breathe in the positive and breathe out the negative. If possible take a few minutes each day to do this while you enjoy some aspect of nature-at a tree, flower, lake, brook or star lit sky. Be good to your soul.
3. Look at yourself in the mirror for one to two minutes a day.
Look yourself in the eye and give yourself a sincere compliment. Smile and accept yourself just as you are. Do this every day for 30 days and notice what happens. Many people find this difficult at first. You may find yourself giggling, tearing up or wanting to escape. Whatever your response, it is natural for you and know that if you persist it will get easier.
4. Dress to bring out your best.
Get rid of clothes that are unflattering to you. How you dress not only affects how others see you, it also affects how you see yourself. Start dressing like you see yourself as confident and successful and watch the feelings follow.
5. Walk tall.
Hold your head up and pay attention to your posture. Walk as if you were confident and self-assured and completely accepted yourself. You will start to feel more confident and self-assured and accepting of yourself. You can start to change the way you feel by changing your physiology.
6. Smile and connect with people.
Make an effort to brighten someone’s day by doing or saying something nice. If someone doesn’t accept your kindness, smile and carry on. Choose to act rather than react, choose to accept yourself.
7. Spend time with confident and friendly people.
Spend more time with people who inspire and uplift you and less time with people who drag you down. You will find that as your self-acceptance improves that you will be more accepting of others.
Self-acceptance can take a bit of practice and effort for some, but it is well worth the effort. Give yourself permission to accept who you are and love yourself.
Susan Derry, B.Ed., M.S.Psy., R.P.C.
Professional Counselor & Life Coach
Co-author of Marriage Prep: Beginnings a downloadable marriage preparation course
Offers a free Nurturing Marriage Ezine
Co-author of Intimate Sex: Manual for Lovemaking, a sex manual for couples