By Irene Conlan –
I found an article about stress which I though would be interesting for this blog. However, I reached the end of the article to discover it was no more than an advertisement for a “getaway” place – albeit, a lovely sounding place. The author’s opening paragraphs are worth reading and so I will quote her, give you the link to her article, and make my own comments.
It is a widely accepted fact that we get busier as we approach 21st century. As we cope with the demands of a very busy, hectic, tied up 24 hour urban lifestyle, we reproduce the same daily routine narrowing down the room for personal space and further damaging our physical and mental health.
In a social research about the effects of stress and the 24 hour society, the study showed these startling figures: 63% of those who report stress expect the problem to stay unchanged or get worse; 53% of people have suffered from work-related stress in the past 12 months; 57% of those who have experienced stress says it has worsened in the past year; 72% of those who are stressed blame too much work; 52% of those under stress feel it is damaging their health and; 20% have sought medical or other professional help (Lynn Eaton, 2005).
Furthermore, if this would remain predominant in our lifestyle, we would be allowing pathologies to take place unexpectedly, be it physiological, psychological or social. As any psychoanalyst would suggest, it is always advisable to have a pause and find a release of tension in everything we do.
Thus, having a pause can mean so little yet so much of impact to the stress of everyday industrial life. It can be some sort of a healing session with a guidance adviser, an open and honest conversation with a friend, or a holiday get away. In addition, release of stress can be done through art, music therapy, meditation, or merely a walk in the park. There are in fact a lot of options. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Jo_Alelsto
She goes on to discuss the value of renting a villa in Barbados. Hmmm. I’d like to do that – in fact I’d love to do that. But will that really deal with my ability to handle the stress in my life? It will give me a hiatus – a week or so of getting away from some of the stressors. But what happens when I return?
Managing stress is as diverse as each individual is uniquely different. What works for one person may not work for another. However, there are short term and long term approaches to stress management.
Short term we can look for “breaks” in stress – things that bring us pleasure and help us forget the feeling of “impending disaster” that seems to accompany the overload of daily stress. Some of these “breaks” can be:
- Taking time out to play, to enjoy – art, music, literature, your children, your spouse – whatever that may be.
- Turning off the cell phone, shutting down the computer – making yourself inaccessible for even a few hours.
- Letting your day off truly be a day off. Go golfing without your cell phone, etc.
- Learning some relaxation techniques that work for you
- Taking care of yourself through exercise, eating right and getting enough sleep.
As you are employing short term means of stress relief, consider tackling the problem long term. These are not as easy but certainly rewarding and may make a difference in the length and quality of the rest of your life. Among these are: ( and this is certainly not a complete list):
- Take a long look at your life as it is now. Ask yourself “What needs to change?” Be honest with yourself as you go about formulate an answer. You will need to consider:
* What is the major source of the stress in your life that you cannot manage?
* What do you enjoy doing more than anything else? Is there a way to make a living doing it?
* What do you really want your life to look like?
* What things can you do without – long term – that will make life easier now and in the future?
* What do you believe about the important things in life – family, God, work, money, etc.?
* Who are you? Really?
* What are you willing to change to make your life more manageable?
- Begin to build in stress reducers that work for your and your family; e.g., mini-vacations, family oriented activities, quiet time with no phones, no computer and no TV in order to enjoy games and conversation with each other.
- Do your inner work. In other words, find a way to learn about yourself, who you are and what you want. In other words MEDITATE
These are not all inclusive lists. Look for your own ways to relieve stress and begin to put them in to practice. Life is short. It should be fun. You are the only one who can make it so.